Introducing Relationship Rebuild

What is the most common theme we see across the board with the men we meet?

A lack of emotional empathy, the ability to communicate,  and the courage to be honest and vulnerable.

It makes perfect sense.

It's all about the effects an addiction like this has on the brain, and about fear and shame.

That fear runs deep and creates avoidance, lying, hiding, belief systems that say you could never be accepted if you're honest.

Yet it's the lack of honesty that continues the shame cycles of hiding of his true self and inability to emotionally connect to his life partner.

We help men separate themselves from the addiction, understand who they really are, why they feel what they do, who they can become, and know what's really going on in their brain. We help him learn that he has the power to reprogram these things and become the man he really wants to be.

That is when he can finally have self awareness, articulate his reality and be honest and authentic... maybe even for the very first time in his life.

With a program backed by neuroscience, psychology and the study of human behavior, our approach helps both partners to have a more full understanding of themselves and each of their valid human experiences so they can get on the same side of this fight together.

Most women who come into this program have been broken multiple times by their partner's betrayals.

She's built up necessary walls of protection, experiencing attachment ambivalence because the very person she's desperate to feel comforted by is the same person who is hurting her and feels unsafe.

She is trapped in hypervigilance and emotional turmoil, not knowing whether she is betraying HERSELF by staying in the relationship.

We help women ground themselves in reality and the truth of what she's going through. We help her know she's not crazy for the feelings she has or stupid for continuing to see if the relationship can be saved.

We help her know what's going on in her brain and body, and give her the tools she needs to take each day one step at a time, and let the work her partner shows her be the evidence she needs to continue building trust with him.

As we begin to get the couple on the same side of this fight together, we teach them both about this addiction and it's impact on the brain.

We also teach them what it means to "become your own programmer", deciding what belief systems and automatic thoughts we want to keep, and which we want to get rid of. Then we show them the work it takes to do it.

We help them understand what it takes to reprogram the subconscious so they no longer have to fear the unwanted unfaithful thoughts that hurt their relationship and eventually lead back to relapse.

We teach them the necessary components to full mindset transformation, so they can take the unwanted impacts that pornography has had and be able to completely eliminate the pulls towards unfaithful behavior or the desire for anything outside the relationship.

Real recovery isn't "white knuckling it" for the rest of your life.

It's experiencing complete fulfillment in your relationship. It's feeling truly known, like you can trust and and be satisfied in your intimacy and emotional closeness. 

It's knowing you're not missing anything, because you have absolutely everything you could ever need.

In this program we teach the couple what a true monogamous relationship can look and feel like, and how to have the secure attachment with their partner they really want.

We help them learn how to create that meaningful connection with their partner where they can feel fully known, accepted and loved, even as a human still in process.

We give the couple the roadmap to what it takes to build a new, REAL and lasting relationship - better than anything they ever had to begin with.

In the maintenance phase, we give the couple the blueprint to create a family protection plan so they can have confidence in their relationship moving forward.

We outline an FAQ with answers on what to do if they face certain challenges, and what modules to go back to for reinforcement and reassurance.

Our goal is to help every couple know exactly what it takes to create a life together where this issue will NEVER be something they have to deal with in their life ever again.